What is the Basis of Your Self-Worth?

I’ve had an exciting full week with a Mental Resilience Masterclass in the East Midlands a Stress Management Masterclass in Cheshire and a coaching session in Buxton.

The Mental Resilience Masterclass for Fisher German went really well, and the group was excellent with great interaction and involvement throughout the day. It is such a joy to work with groups like this who really engage in the day.

The Stress Management Masterclass for Primetics on behalf of Live and Learn went really well and again the group was excellent. There was much discussion and exercises to work through and the day flew by.

Great feedback

It was so good to receive very positive feedback from both sessions and to finish the week off I had a great coaching session with Dave Clark who is my longest standing coaching client and we always have a great time together.

Last week I delivered my Mental Resilience Keynote talk at the BME Symposium in Berlin which is a huge conference held every year. It was held in the Intercontinental Hotel which was next to the Berlin Zoo which has just witnessed the birth of twin Pandas.

Twin Pandas

The zoo has a Panda house and the 3-month-old twins are doing well. I decided not to go to the zoo or to see too many sites in Berlin as I want to bring my wife Julie to visit with me and we can share the joy together.

I have just received the feedback score from my Berlin talk and I scored an average of 4.8 out of 5. The words they used for this score was extraordinary and I am so pleased that it was so well received.

I came across this article recently in Word for Today and it made me think

What is the basis of your self-worth?

“One morning, a businessman saw a fisherman lounging on his boat drinking coffee.  
‘You’re back early,’ he shouted. The sailor replied, ‘I’ve caught enough. I’m through for the day.’

The businessman said, ‘Why not go out again? If you keep going out you can catch more fish and increase your income, buy a second boat, hire a crew, and become rich like me.’

The man replied, ‘Why should I do that?’ The businessman said, ‘So you’ll be free to do what you want and enjoy life.’

Grinning, the fisherman said, ‘But that’s exactly what I’m doing right now!’ Wise people say, ‘Be satisfied with what you have,’ yet many of us base our self-worth on what we own or achieve.

We only feel good about ourselves when we’re involved in certain relationships or live in certain areas or reach certain goals. We tell ourselves, ‘When I earn more money, or become CEO, or get fitter, etc., I’ll be okay.’

So, what’s the basis of your self-worth today? If you’re not sure, ask yourself, ‘What can I not live without?’ Is there somebody you’re afraid will leave you? A job you’re too involved in?

Is there something you need to accomplish before you feel complete? It is wise to have goals for your life, but don’t undermine yourself by believing that you’re ‘less than’ because you’ve achieved or acquired less than someone else.”

This hit a nerve

This resonated with me when I read it. I used to be just like this always striving for perfection and being the best. I never achieved perfection or the best and I was always insecure and incomplete.

Since I met Julie and discovered many things which I am sharing across the world, I am now grateful for everything I currently have and grateful for what I am achieving. I don’t have to be perfect and I don’t have to be the best.

This is a revelation to me and has given me great peace and joy in my life. I rest more than I did, and I work smarter not harder. I am grateful for each day I have and grateful for the people in my life.

Thoughts for the week.

1. Do you continually strive to improve your life?
2. Are you dissatisfied with where you are and what you have in life?
3. Do you sometimes think ‘when I get that promotion or new car, I will be happy?’
4. You need to be happy now with what you currently have – so practice gratitude.
5. This week start by looking at the various things in your life and be grateful for each one. This is a habit you can develop – when you do this contentment and self-worth start to appear in your life.

Well that’s it for this week have a wonderful weekend and keep Believing!

Warm regards

John

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