Self-confidence is a skill that you nourish and train; it is not something you gain overnight. Some people will have a big amount of self-confidence naturally, and it’ll show in how they behave and handle situations. However, some people go through a trauma or bad experiences that take a toll on their self-confidence.
How you see yourself and treat yourself defines how others will treat you. Self-confidence is an important trait of success because it pushes you to be your best self, to take risks, and to get people to say yes to you.
Here are a few tips I came across recently that can help you boost your self-confidence, helping you lead a better and healthier lifestyle.
5 Tips to Boost Your Self-Confidence:
1. Shut down negative thoughts:
“It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts.” Robert H. Schuller
It’s about time you said goodbye to the negative voices in your head. Whenever you have a negative thought about yourself, your job, or your career, you push yourself down a little bit more. You need to stop listening to the negativity and start replacing those negative thoughts with positive ones.
Instead of saying you can’t do this or that, tell yourself you can, and sooner or later, you’ll start believing it. Negativity only leads to negativity; it demotivates you to be your best or do any good so next time you get a negative thought, quickly replace it with a positive one. And then when you have that positive thought, turn it into action.
2. Surround yourself with positivity:
“Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.” Oprah Winfrey
It’s not just enough to have positive thoughts and implement them. The people around you and in your life have a huge influence on your self-confidence. Surround yourself with people that push you up and push you towards what you want in life, not people that make you feel bad about yourself and your life.
Your environment, family, and friends can make all the difference about how you feel about yourself. They are the main pillar in encouraging you to believe in yourself. So, it’s time to clean your contacts list. Pull out all the bad weeds that negatively take you down and make you feel bad.
3. Change how you see yourself:
“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your powers you cannot be successful or happy” Norman Vincent Peale
We behave and feel according to our self-image. So if you feel like you’re a loser at life, you’ll walk with your shoulders slumped and avoid eye contact, if you feel like you’re not physically attractive, you’ll avoid looking in mirrors much, and so on.
Changing how you see yourself and working on your body language, eye contact, and speech will make you more confident in yourself. Find out what are the things in your image you don’t like and work on fixing them, you can even try focusing on the things you do like about your self-image and saying them out loud to yourself until you believe it.
Be confident in the way you carry yourself even if you don’t necessarily feel that way just yet. Pull your shoulders back, stand tall, and talk slowly and clearly. How you act in front of others will not only make them think you’re confident but will boost your confidence.
4. Do something risky once a week:
“Do not fear mistakes. There are none.” Miles Davis
You can’t keep safe in your bubble forever; you need to put yourself out there – and get rejected. Taking risks doesn’t necessarily mean go bungee jumping or mountain climbing but take yourself out of your comfort zone. Talk to that girl you’ve always had a crush on or start that little business from home, even if it leads to rejection.
You need to accustom yourself to rejection, whether it’s from your crush, an investor, or a friend. The fear of failing or being rejected will always be in the way, so you need to overcome it by training yourself to accept rejection.
5. Be Grateful and Helpful:
“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.” Willie Nelson
Doing good for others will make us feel good about ourselves. The smallest gestures like a smile can make all the difference with someone. Try to always have an active role in volunteering or even helping charities during the holidays, being able to make a difference with someone will satisfy you inside and improve your self-image.
Seeing all the change that you can do and all those that need your help will make you more grateful for the people and things in your life. Having an impact on someone else’s life will give you a big dose of confidence because you made that happen.
Thoughts for the week:
- Look at the list of tips and check yourself against each one.
- If you are doing well in all areas well done.
- If you have some areas which need addressing, then work on these this week.
- Confidence is a state of mind which can be improved with techniques like these.
Well that’s it for this week have a wonderful weekend and stay positive.
Warm and healthy regards
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