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It was a privilege to work with Rolls Royce once more this week. I had the opportunity to present Mental Resilience Masterclass 1 to the Submarines team under the leadership of manager Ryan Wilde and the guidance of Head of Faculty Engineering Darren West.
This one-hour masterclass, which marked the beginning of the team’s away day, was met with great enthusiasm and was a significant step in enhancing their mental resilience.
The team’s exceptional engagement and the glowing feedback they provided at the end of the session were truly heartening. It’s a joy to be able to share life-changing mental resilience techniques with professionals globally, and the relationship with Rolls Royce is always a special one.
I’m thrilled about the upcoming week when I’ll deliver an online Mental Resilience Masterclass for Orthex in Finland and all three Masterclasses to a team at NSG Pilkington Glass in Poland.
How things have changed
This week, I have been thinking about my life and how it has changed so much over the past ten years. Just before I met and subsequently married Julie, I was 59 years of age, painting and decorating, single, in massive debt, and living with my mum.
Now aged 70, I am an international speaker, published author, international trainer, and executive coach. I am debt-free and happy, with purpose and passion in my life. I aim to continue until I am 80.
This wasn’t easy, and it didn’t happen overnight. In fact, there were times when I wanted to give up, but Julie kept me going. It was up and down and, at times, very demoralising, but mental resilience is all about getting back up, so I kept doing that.
Then it got worse
When Covid hit the world, I had six months of bookings both in the UK and worldwide, and within three days, every single one was cancelled. I remember sitting at home in shock, wondering what to do as a 66-year-old receiving my pension.
I considered retiring, but I believed I had more to give, so I wrote a second book and split my full-day masterclass into three one-hour masterclasses, which I planned to deliver to companies online. At first, there was zero interest, but then one company agreed. The feedback from this session led to the next one, and so on.
Two people I would like to thank personally are John Wilgar and Marcel Devereaux from NGS Pilkington Glass, who booked me for six online sessions for their staff during this difficult time. This boosted my self-belief and belief in my product, giving me the drive I needed to develop the business I now have.
The Reframe Technique
The reframe technique involves changing the way you perceive a situation by looking at it from a different, more positive perspective. By shifting the context or meaning of an experience, you can reduce negative emotions, enhance problem-solving, and foster a more balanced mindset.
Another way to look at this is to find the seed of something positive in a negative situation. By finding that seed of something positive, you can move forward with something positive you have taken away. This makes you feel better about the negative situation, giving you a better mindset and more energy.
A game-changer
COVID-19 was a game-changer for me. Without it, I wouldn’t have developed an online offering that is proving to be extremely popular with clients worldwide, and I wouldn’t have written my second book, which is helping so many people.
Reframing is a psychological strategy for changing how we perceive a situation, event or thought by shifting its context or meaning. It aims to view things in a more positive, constructive, or balanced way. Reframing is commonly used in cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT), coaching, and everyday life to help people cope with negative emotions, stress, or unhelpful thinking patterns.
How Reframing Works
Reframing involves looking at a situation from a different perspective. For example, instead of seeing a failure as a personal shortcoming, you might reframe it as a valuable learning opportunity or a necessary step toward growth.
Types of Reframing
Content Reframing is changing the meaning of a specific event or situation by focusing on a different aspect of it. For example, “I got rejected from a job I wanted” can be reframed as “This gives me the chance to find a better job that suits me more.”
Context Reframing: Altering the context in which a behaviour or thought occurs to change its meaning. For instance, see procrastination not just as laziness but as a way of conserving energy for more critical tasks.
Benefits of Reframing
- Reduces stress and anxiety by providing alternative ways to understand situations.
- Promotes emotional resilience by encouraging more balanced thinking.
- Enhances problem-solving skills by offering new perspectives.
- Increases motivation by shifting focus from obstacles to opportunities.
Thoughts for the week.
- How do you deal with things that go wrong?
- Do you get angry and accept things as they are?
- This week, when something goes wrong, try to find the seed of something positive as soon as you can.
- This could be something you have learned or the acceptance that you will never do that again. Or it could be something positive, which you can find, as I did.
- This way, you learn and grow because you only grow in your character and comfort zone when things go wrong. So, use these times of learning to grow.
Well, that’s it for this week. Have a wonderful weekend, and keep believing.
Warm regards
John
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