What you Say is what you Get

Happy New Year!

What a great Christmas break I had with my family and Julie – I trust you had a good one too. It is so important to balance work with leisure and family time. I had time to rest and ponder on 2017, and to also think ahead to the exciting adventure 2018 is going to be.

‘What Say is what you get.’ I believe that the words you speak have a direct impact on your future. If you speak negative words negative things seem to appear in your life, when you speak positive words better things seem to appear in your life.

Everything started to change

Since I changed the way I think and speak 4 years ago, everything has changed for the better and I ask you to consider the way you think and speak in 2018. Amazing things have happened over these 4 years that I can hardly believe – too many to list here.

Words like ‘hope’ and ‘if’ are negative words. Instead of ‘I hope’ use ‘I will’ and instead of ‘if’ use ‘when’. This makes all the difference. Look at the phrase ‘I hope I can do this’ compared to ‘I will do this’. There is a different feeling when you repeat these two phrases – try it.

What you say does make a difference

There is a certainty to ‘I will do this’ which gives you a belief that you can do it. As you start to look at the words you speak and make them positive, change will come but it will take some time. In my experience it may take months to see improvement but when it comes it’s worth the wait.

Patience is needed so stick with this and let me know later this year how things are going. I came across this story from China which made me smile:

Two apples

“A Father and his Daughter were playing in the park. His young daughter spotted an apple vendor. She asked her father to buy her an apple. Father didn’t bring much money with him, but it was enough to purchase two apples. So, he bought two apples and gave them to his daughter.

His daughter held one apple each in her two hands. Then father asked her if she can share one apple with him. Upon hearing this, his daughter quickly took a bite from one apple and before her father could speak, she also took a bite from the second apple.

He was disappointed

Father was surprised. He wondered what mistake he made raising his daughter that she acted in such a greedy way. His mind was lost in thoughts, that perhaps he is just thinking too much, his daughter is too young to understand about sharing and giving. A smile had disappeared from his face.

Then suddenly his daughter with an apple in her one hand said, “Father have this one, this one is much juicier and sweeter”. Her father was speechless. He felt bad about reaching to the judgement so quickly about a small child.

His smile came back now knowing why his daughter quickly took a bite from each apple.”

It is so easy for us to judge too quickly sometimes; the good intentions of people are often hidden or not obvious.

Thoughts for the week:

1. Do you find yourself using negative words like hope and if?
2. Words like these are negative and have a negative impact on our lives.
3. Try to remove these negative words from your vocabulary and see what happens.
4. Replace them with words like Can and Will.
5. It may take some time to see the benefits, but it’s worth the wait.

Well that’s it for the first blog of 2018 and I look forward to sharing more with you every weekend.

Have a wonderful week ahead and stay positive.

Warm regards

John