Sometimes there are moments in life which really stand out and have a huge impact on you.
This happened to me last Thursday in the Renaissance Hotel at Heathrow Airport where I delivered my Mental Resilience Masterclass to the Europe, Middle East and Africa Customer Team for Rolls Royce.
Rolls Royce are a World Class organisation and they picked me to be their guest speaker over the two-day Conference. On Thursday I delivered Masterclass 1 and on Friday I delivered Masterclass 2 from my Mental Resilience Programme.
This team is outstanding, and we had such fun over the two days. They are clearly highly experienced and qualified, and it was a joy to work with them. John Kelly the Senior Vice President runs a wonderful team, and it was a real pleasure to meet him and to share my story and techniques with the team.
Great team and great feedback
The feedback was extremely positive, and I had to pinch myself to realise how far I have come over the past 8 years since I was unemployed, single, deep in debt, living with my mother and sleeping in the room I was brought up in as a child.
My journey has taken a great deal of Mental Resilience, and the techniques I used to turn my life around were the techniques I shared with the staff attending this Conference. Techniques like the power of Gratitude and how hormones like Dopamine and Serotonin are released in the blood stream when you are grateful.
These hormones make you feel good from the inside, so you change the way you feel when you are grateful. It is just like eating a bar of chocolate you immediately feel good. You can very quickly change from a negative state into a positive state by simply focussing on things you are grateful for. Within a minute you can be in a positive state where you have high energy and no stress.
What you think is what you feel
What you think is what you feel so if your thoughts are positive, you feel good, if your thoughts are negative, you feel bad. So next time you feel bad check your thinking – nine times out of ten you will be thinking about something which is negative.
All you then need to do is change what you are thinking about to change the way you feel, and gratitude does this very well. The principle at work here is that your conscious mind can only think of one thing at a time. When you think of something positive you can’t be thinking of something negative at the same time.
I have created a habit of being grateful many times a day for the simple things in life like a nice meal, a pleasant conversation, the important people in my life, the things I appreciate in life, the lovely things I can see and the fabulous flavours I can taste.
The Reframe Technique
Finding the positive in every negative situation is also a very powerful technique I shared with them because when you find that seed of something positive you have something to take from the experience as you move forward. As my wife Julie says ‘At Least’ something positive came from the situation.
I have yet to find a negative situation I have experienced where I haven’t found a seed of something positive.
Thoughts for the week
This week think about the way you think and feel
Every time you feel bad check your thinking and see if it’s something negative.
If it is use Gratitude to think about nice things to make you feel better.
Once you feel better take positive action on something and don’t go back to that thought.
Well that’s it for this week have a wonderful weekend and keep believing.