I have really enjoyed this week, which has been busy delivering Masterclasses and coaching new clients. It is very fulfilling to be able to help people and make a real difference. I don’t take for granted the position I find myself in and I’m very grateful for the path my life is taking.
This week I had the privilege to speak at the ITP Aero Conference held in the stunning Breadsall Priory Hotel in Derbyshire. ITP Aero is a Spanish aero engine and gas turbine manufacturer. It was established in 1989 as a joint venture between Spanish engineering conglomerate SENER and Rolls-Royce Plc.
Managing Director Ian Williamson booked me for Mental Resilience Masterclass 1, and it went down a treat. The interaction from the senior managers was brilliant with great energy in the room and the feedback was wonderful.
It wasn’t like this a few years ago
When things go wrong in your life you have a story to tell, and what I have been through gives my sessions authenticity. This is often commented on in the feedback and the turnaround in my life is inspirational to many people including how I came back from losing everything 3 years ago when Covid hit to be back on top again travelling the globe and spreading these messages.
I remember very clearly watching a DVD in my car around 10 years ago when I was painting and decorating. I was on my lunch break in my car when I pulled out my laptop and inserted the DVD someone had given me and little did I know that this was about to change my life in a dramatic way.
As I watched the DVD there were two techniques the speaker shared regarding mental resilience, and these really annoyed me. You see I was in a very dark place where I was painting and decorating for £70 a day and working 12-hour days.
A vertical mental scale
I was £40,000 in debt and was living with my mum in the same bedroom I was brought up in as a child. The first technique described a vertical mental scale with sunshine, happiness and high energy at the top and darkness, depression and low energy at the bottom.
They said that we are always somewhere on this scale – if things are going well, you are high on the scale and if they are going bad you are near the bottom of this scale. They then said if you are on the upper half of this scale for more than 50% on average per day then things will start to work out in your life.
I was in a dark place, and I didn’t like what they said. Then they talked about a ‘Bucket List’ of things you want to do before you die but to have this list in pictures on a board. They then said if you visualise yourself having achieved these things and what it feels like then they will start to appear in your life. They called this a Vision Board.
It was all my fault!
They then said something which made me seethe. They said you are where you are in your life because of the Thoughts you have had, the Words you have spoken and the Actions you have taken. They said that you can change where you head from this point on by changing the way you THINK, the way you SPEAK and the way you ACT.
Now I was mad as they blamed me for the predicament I found myself in and it hurt. So, I decided to create a Vision Board and to try to live my life in the top half of that vertical Mental scale just to prove it doesn’t work!
So, I created what I call a Dream Board and put pictures of Hotels in Dubai, wedding rings to indicate a third and final marriage, a nice house and car etc. Then I worked hard on changing my mindset when I dropped down that vertical scale.
It all changed
Over the next few months to my complete surprise, my life started to turn around. I met Julie not long after and we celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary earlier this month. My business started to take off and I stopped painting and decorating to focus fully on my business. I wrote my first book and started speaking at various events and conferences.
It blew me away to think that a simple change in thinking and speaking changed everything. Now all my debts are paid off, we have money in the bank, and I have spoken Internationally 24 times. I have many wonderful clients including Rolls Royce and Siemens and I simply adore what I do.
Now I have the privilege to share the techniques I used to change my life through coaching, training and speaking across the world.
There are many benefits to having a positive mindset here are three:
- Better Emotional Well-being: A positive mindset enables individuals to regulate their emotions effectively. It promotes positive emotions like joy, gratitude, and contentment, which contribute to overall emotional well-being.
- Greater Happiness and Life Satisfaction: By embracing positivity, individuals often experience higher happiness and life satisfaction levels. They appreciate the present moment, find joy in small things, and have an optimistic outlook towards the future.
- Inspiring and Influencing Others: A positive mindset has a contagious effect on people around you. By radiating positivity, you can inspire and uplift others, creating a supportive and optimistic environment.
It’s important to note that developing a positive mindset is a lifelong journey that requires practice and self-awareness. However, the benefits can significantly enhance various aspects of life and contribute to overall well-being.
Thoughts for the week
- This week every time you feel negative stop what you are doing and think of all the things which are good in your life.
- It could be the relationships you have or the place you live, the holiday places you adore, or the food or drink you love etc.
- As you do this you release the pleasure hormones Dopamine and Serotonin into your bloodstream, and you immediately start to feel more positive.
- Then get back to what you were doing with renewed energy and positivity.
- Let this become a habit every time you dip into a negative state of mind and watch how things change.
Well, that’s it for this week, have a wonderful weekend and keep believing.